So, this whole process with my Grandfather has taught me a few things. Things I want to share with you,
If you were born, you are going to die. That's pretty much a given. Have you discussed your final wishes with those you love yet? Seriously? I know it's a morbid topic no one really wants to have, but its a discussion that NEEDS to be had.
Do you want to be an organ donor?
Do you want your body to go to science?
Do you want to be buried or cremated?
Is there a particular place you want your remains to be placed?
Do you want a funeral, memorial service, wake, nothing, some other religious or personal ceremony?
How do you feel about living will? Do you want to live like a vegetable? Do you want to be given a chance to "come around"? If so, how long should your loved ones wait before "pulling the plug"?
Do you have a will?
Do you have life insurance?
Do your loved ones know, without a shadow of doubt, if you have any final wishes, or who is to do what with what or get what?
Do you have young kids? What arrangements are made for them?
How do you feel about nursing homes?
Would you rather, given the choice, die at home? What circumstances, if any, would you allow that to be changed?`
I have to tell you, before going through this, there were some questions listed above I had not thought about. Like having your body donated for a few weeks to science (for cancer or lupus or whatever), before getting your body back.
What about a final ceremony of some sort? If you have wishes regarding this, make them known.
And what if you have a certain ... anything... you really want a certain someone to have, or something special you want said or done? Make it known!
This is not a conversation you should put off having. You are NEVER guaranteed a tomorrow. So don't assume that. It's something we've learned the hard way.
I know this is not a fun conversation to have, but it's one that we all need to have with our spouses and loved ones. Please consider making this conversation happen sooner, rather than later. At least think about it.