I feel the need to do this publicly since I vented publicly. =( I need to repent!
I vented about my how poorly my husband's job treats him and how hard it can be on us all. I took out all my frustrations and, to be quite blunt, I was wrong. I was being ungrateful.
My husband is employed! Hallelujah! So many people aren't. And not only is he employed, but his job affords us life insurance and health insurance. It affords me the ability to stay home with my kids right now. It pays our bills and gets us groceries. How dare I be so ungrateful!
Sure, things are hard sometimes. And yes, it's difficult to see him being unappreciated at his place of work. But I have got to seriously start shifting my way of thinking. I need to start having an attitude of gratefulness. I have so much to be grateful for.
Father, please forgive me for my anger and ungratefulness. Help me change my way of thinking. Replace my selfish spirit with one of gratefulness. Help change me from the inside, out.
In Jesus' Name I Pray~Amen.
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Monday, April 2, 2012
Something to be thankful for
Okay, so I went on a bit of a tear on my last entry. But something else is weighing on me as well....
I am ever so thankful for wonderful husband. He works so darn much and still comes home to mow the lawn, do the dishes if needed, change a diaper, and just play and be with family. He is so awesome. He sacrifices so very much for us. And I am forever grateful.
And this thought got me thinking of something earlier to night.... "grateful"......
I was at my sister's when the national news came on tonight. The highlights were:
1. My area hosted a Vietnam Veterans memorial
2. A shooting in california leaving 7 dead and 3 hospitalized.
3. The war over seas and Iran in general.
I sat there seeing the footage of cities over seas in turmoil. I sat there watching rebels fight and cities be bombed. And you know what? I actually told my mom and sister I was thankful that wasn't us. I am so grateful that I can go to the market and not worry about if we will be caught in the cross fire or be bombed. I cannot for the life of me imagine what life must be like for those people over seas who's lives are like this. And what about those in parts of Africa? There is hell on Earth in so many places (Haiti is still trying to recover for starters....I could go on and on), and my biggest worries are gas prices and paychecks. Really?
I have three beautiful, healthy girls. I have a husband I adore and who adores me. I have a beautiful home. I have friends and family who mean the world to me. I have money in the bank (even if it's not a whole lot, it's still there). We pay our bills. We have love in our lives...love from one another and from family on both sides. We have cars, food, clothing, ect. We have it so much better than so many out there.
Life isn't always easy. We each get thrown our hurdles to overcome. We each have our own difficulties. And I'm not saying that they aren't hard at times, because believe me, life can down right suck sometimes. But when I look at the bigger picture, I'm reminded of all I have to be thankful for (and it's alot. I could sit here and list things for the next hour, but what good would that do> lol) Sometimes when things take an ugly turn in life, it's good to take a long look at what is going right and what we have to be thankful for. It might not fix the "ugly" we are going through, but it might give us perspective and hope. And that can make all the difference.
What do you have to be thankful for?
I am ever so thankful for wonderful husband. He works so darn much and still comes home to mow the lawn, do the dishes if needed, change a diaper, and just play and be with family. He is so awesome. He sacrifices so very much for us. And I am forever grateful.
And this thought got me thinking of something earlier to night.... "grateful"......
I was at my sister's when the national news came on tonight. The highlights were:
1. My area hosted a Vietnam Veterans memorial
2. A shooting in california leaving 7 dead and 3 hospitalized.
3. The war over seas and Iran in general.
I sat there seeing the footage of cities over seas in turmoil. I sat there watching rebels fight and cities be bombed. And you know what? I actually told my mom and sister I was thankful that wasn't us. I am so grateful that I can go to the market and not worry about if we will be caught in the cross fire or be bombed. I cannot for the life of me imagine what life must be like for those people over seas who's lives are like this. And what about those in parts of Africa? There is hell on Earth in so many places (Haiti is still trying to recover for starters....I could go on and on), and my biggest worries are gas prices and paychecks. Really?
I have three beautiful, healthy girls. I have a husband I adore and who adores me. I have a beautiful home. I have friends and family who mean the world to me. I have money in the bank (even if it's not a whole lot, it's still there). We pay our bills. We have love in our lives...love from one another and from family on both sides. We have cars, food, clothing, ect. We have it so much better than so many out there.
Life isn't always easy. We each get thrown our hurdles to overcome. We each have our own difficulties. And I'm not saying that they aren't hard at times, because believe me, life can down right suck sometimes. But when I look at the bigger picture, I'm reminded of all I have to be thankful for (and it's alot. I could sit here and list things for the next hour, but what good would that do> lol) Sometimes when things take an ugly turn in life, it's good to take a long look at what is going right and what we have to be thankful for. It might not fix the "ugly" we are going through, but it might give us perspective and hope. And that can make all the difference.
What do you have to be thankful for?
Oh the joys of a bullshit job
I need to vent.
My husband works a local car dealership. His pay is not much. It would put us on welfare in a heartbeat. He makes his $$ really through his bonuses. Bonuses are paid out on how well the dealership does.
They have him in a management position. He works his tale off. He works from 8:30 a.m. until around 10 pm easily 4 nights a week. He works several Sundays a month, but not all. He really only gets one day off week when he works Sundays. =(
The people higher up complain they want him to concentrate on his one job as manager. But, they still also have him doing new hire training, VIP sales, Race team sales, "Heat Cases" (he has the wonderful task of dealing with pissed off people), and doing inventory. And you know what? He does it. He does it well and without complaining. And he still sells an average of about 10 cars a month on his own (and he is NOT salesman!) Anyone who has a problem or question goes to him for help and answers. He easily does the job of 3. And yet.....
Every time he seems to finally get a really good bonus, the people higher up want to question what he does and/or "re-establish" his pay plan. What does that mean? It means they ask what he does all day (hello! duh!) and then make it even harder for him to make those bonuses that allow us to buy our groceries, pay medical bills, buy birthday presents, and live. He doesn't even have time to talk to me for 2 minutes most days. He stays that busy and pulled in so many directions.
I'm just so tired of them not appreciating him. I'm so tired of every time he FINALLY gets a good paycheck, the higher ups wondering if he's worth it and changing his pay plan. Why can't they see how hard he works? He has been there over 10 years. He is loyal to a fault, both to the company and to his bosses. And yet the continue to do this to him. When my grandfather died, they told him he couldn't leave to be with me. WTF?
Please God.... Please... Help him. Help his bosses see what an asset he is. Help him be appreciated and respected and compensated. And if they can't or aren't willing, then please move him elsewhere, where he will be.
Do you know how hard it is to raise 3 young girls with a husband who is gone almost all the time? He works so damn hard and is gone so much. I know it's hard on him. And it's hard on us both when no one seems to appreciate him, or his work. Why should we all suffer when no one appreciates what he does?
He doesn't get the nice cushy job of sitting on his butt all day and making the big bucks. He is pulled in so many directions from every department and makes less then those who have been there less time and sit on their butts all day.
I have always held out hope that his bosses would come around and see what all he does and what he is worth. But it seems as if they never will. It seems as if they will keep taking advantage of him. I mean, I guess they are the same as everyone else. Why reward the hardest worker? Just keep beating him down until he breaks.
Lord, I think we're ready for a change. My girls are ready to have a real dad in their life. And I'm ready to have a husband. And I know he's ready to be appreciated. Help.
My husband works a local car dealership. His pay is not much. It would put us on welfare in a heartbeat. He makes his $$ really through his bonuses. Bonuses are paid out on how well the dealership does.
They have him in a management position. He works his tale off. He works from 8:30 a.m. until around 10 pm easily 4 nights a week. He works several Sundays a month, but not all. He really only gets one day off week when he works Sundays. =(
The people higher up complain they want him to concentrate on his one job as manager. But, they still also have him doing new hire training, VIP sales, Race team sales, "Heat Cases" (he has the wonderful task of dealing with pissed off people), and doing inventory. And you know what? He does it. He does it well and without complaining. And he still sells an average of about 10 cars a month on his own (and he is NOT salesman!) Anyone who has a problem or question goes to him for help and answers. He easily does the job of 3. And yet.....
Every time he seems to finally get a really good bonus, the people higher up want to question what he does and/or "re-establish" his pay plan. What does that mean? It means they ask what he does all day (hello! duh!) and then make it even harder for him to make those bonuses that allow us to buy our groceries, pay medical bills, buy birthday presents, and live. He doesn't even have time to talk to me for 2 minutes most days. He stays that busy and pulled in so many directions.
I'm just so tired of them not appreciating him. I'm so tired of every time he FINALLY gets a good paycheck, the higher ups wondering if he's worth it and changing his pay plan. Why can't they see how hard he works? He has been there over 10 years. He is loyal to a fault, both to the company and to his bosses. And yet the continue to do this to him. When my grandfather died, they told him he couldn't leave to be with me. WTF?
Please God.... Please... Help him. Help his bosses see what an asset he is. Help him be appreciated and respected and compensated. And if they can't or aren't willing, then please move him elsewhere, where he will be.
Do you know how hard it is to raise 3 young girls with a husband who is gone almost all the time? He works so damn hard and is gone so much. I know it's hard on him. And it's hard on us both when no one seems to appreciate him, or his work. Why should we all suffer when no one appreciates what he does?
He doesn't get the nice cushy job of sitting on his butt all day and making the big bucks. He is pulled in so many directions from every department and makes less then those who have been there less time and sit on their butts all day.
I have always held out hope that his bosses would come around and see what all he does and what he is worth. But it seems as if they never will. It seems as if they will keep taking advantage of him. I mean, I guess they are the same as everyone else. Why reward the hardest worker? Just keep beating him down until he breaks.
Lord, I think we're ready for a change. My girls are ready to have a real dad in their life. And I'm ready to have a husband. And I know he's ready to be appreciated. Help.
Friday, March 23, 2012
=) =) =)
TGIF!! Thank Goodness It's Friday! My kids only have a 1/2 day of school today, so they'll be home for lunch and I am soooo excited about that! =) I can't wait! And since they are calling for rain most of the weekend, when I'm out running errands in a bit, I'm going to stop by the Redbox Kiosk and pick up the movies I have on hold for us! I even have cookies I may make this weekend. =) I love having them home. I can't wait for summer!
Last night, I made an entry that many may think me weird for. *shrugs* That's okay. I am who I am. Well, last night my husband came home from work and gave me two nuggets of good news:
1. He was able to secure something really fun and nice for someone who could use "nice" right now and I am just over the moon excited about it. I love it when things like this happen. It makes your heart smile when something you or a loved one does to put a smile on someone else's face.
This alone, made my night last night. But then told me something else.....
2. We get to take the kids back to the GWL!! ( Great Wolf Lodge!) For anyone that doesn't know what that is, it's a themed hotel and indoor/outdoor water park. In the summer they have an outdoor pool that's open. But the indoor water park is open all year around to guests staying at the lodge only. It also has an ice cream parlor, restaurants, gift shops, spas for adults and children, story time at big tree, and something they call Magiquest.
We took the kids 2 years ago and they loved it! They have mentioned wanting to go back, over and over and over and over (well you get the gist here) again. I can't wait!! We just need to narrow down when to take them. My youngest is going to love it! She loves water now! The first time she was just a year old and wasn't sure what to make of it all. I can't wait to see what she's like this time!
We opted not to take a "real vacation" this year for several reasons. One being we have plans to start improving our backyard for the summer so we can entertain (extend the patio, get a grill, get patio furniture, maybe a gas fire pit and a tent like gazebo thing, ect). That takes money. And I really hope we can get it all done. It would mean a lot to me.
The other reason is that we would like to take the girls to Disney next year. So we're going to save up for that. That means no vacation this year. We were a little bummed about not getting to go anywhere this year, we need a family vacation. So now, getting this little nugget of information, put my already good spirits even higher! When we went two years ago, we talked about how it was like a vacation! We may be in our home town, but it feels like we're miles away from everything. It was just a time of good family fun! We loved it. I can't wait to do it again!
So maybe I am little weird, or superstitious. But when that songs pops in my head (from the last entry) for seemingly no reason, it seems to mean something to me. And whether you count it coincidence or something else, makes no difference to me. I just know that I am thanking God for both these things today.
Last night, I made an entry that many may think me weird for. *shrugs* That's okay. I am who I am. Well, last night my husband came home from work and gave me two nuggets of good news:
1. He was able to secure something really fun and nice for someone who could use "nice" right now and I am just over the moon excited about it. I love it when things like this happen. It makes your heart smile when something you or a loved one does to put a smile on someone else's face.
This alone, made my night last night. But then told me something else.....
2. We get to take the kids back to the GWL!! ( Great Wolf Lodge!) For anyone that doesn't know what that is, it's a themed hotel and indoor/outdoor water park. In the summer they have an outdoor pool that's open. But the indoor water park is open all year around to guests staying at the lodge only. It also has an ice cream parlor, restaurants, gift shops, spas for adults and children, story time at big tree, and something they call Magiquest.
We took the kids 2 years ago and they loved it! They have mentioned wanting to go back, over and over and over and over (well you get the gist here) again. I can't wait!! We just need to narrow down when to take them. My youngest is going to love it! She loves water now! The first time she was just a year old and wasn't sure what to make of it all. I can't wait to see what she's like this time!
We opted not to take a "real vacation" this year for several reasons. One being we have plans to start improving our backyard for the summer so we can entertain (extend the patio, get a grill, get patio furniture, maybe a gas fire pit and a tent like gazebo thing, ect). That takes money. And I really hope we can get it all done. It would mean a lot to me.
The other reason is that we would like to take the girls to Disney next year. So we're going to save up for that. That means no vacation this year. We were a little bummed about not getting to go anywhere this year, we need a family vacation. So now, getting this little nugget of information, put my already good spirits even higher! When we went two years ago, we talked about how it was like a vacation! We may be in our home town, but it feels like we're miles away from everything. It was just a time of good family fun! We loved it. I can't wait to do it again!
So maybe I am little weird, or superstitious. But when that songs pops in my head (from the last entry) for seemingly no reason, it seems to mean something to me. And whether you count it coincidence or something else, makes no difference to me. I just know that I am thanking God for both these things today.
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Somethings Coming...
So about a year ago, I made a post about this song that just popped into my head out of the blue. I hadn't watched the movie it was in, in years! I found it odd, strange. And I had hoped there was some meaning to it.
Here is the link to it: http://randomness-noey814.blogspot.com/2011/02/somethings-coming.html
So today I'm at my sisters and we are talking and watching some show and I get up to use the rest room, and what pops in my head?
"Something's coming, I don't know what it is,
But it is
Gonna be great!"
It's from that song. I have NO idea why it popped in my head and I started singing it. But after singing some of the song, it hit me that this same thing happened last year. And last year, we got a house. So yeah...when this song hits me completely out of the blue, I do wonder what it may mean. I guess only time will tell.....
Here is the link to it: http://randomness-noey814.blogspot.com/2011/02/somethings-coming.html
So today I'm at my sisters and we are talking and watching some show and I get up to use the rest room, and what pops in my head?
"Something's coming, I don't know what it is,
But it is
Gonna be great!"
It's from that song. I have NO idea why it popped in my head and I started singing it. But after singing some of the song, it hit me that this same thing happened last year. And last year, we got a house. So yeah...when this song hits me completely out of the blue, I do wonder what it may mean. I guess only time will tell.....
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Perspective
Today has been yet another one of those days that you can add to the list of days that really sucked this year so far. I have had a lot of those. More than usual. More than I want. More than anyone would want. But, so many others out there have it so much worse than I do. If these are my problems, I should be thankful they aren't worse. For example:
I got super upset when something we really wanted and thought was an answer to so many prayers of ours didn't work out for us not long ago. But they say everything happens for reason (btw, don't tell this to a person who has been devastated by something. It only makes them want to smack you. Wait until they are really in a place to hear it). A friend of mine told me this not long ago (it was after the initial shock of the devastation, so she was good. lol). I could not for the life me understand what that reason could be. And it didn't seem as if the Lord was going to answer me about it either. I felt like nothing was going to be good enough anyway. Boy was I was wrong. And I have to tell you, I actually cried today at how selfish I was about it all and how foolishly I reacted to it. I felt so badly about it.
You see, my husband got a phone call here at home today from a total stranger, while he was out doing our taxes. She was given his name as a contact to help with a fund raiser for little boy that's 2 1/2 years old and is dying from brain cancer. The little boy's name is Carter. And I have been following him on both Facebook and on his Caring Bridge page. He is a local boy. And what he and his family have gone through the past 6 months since getting his diagnosis have astounded me. His mother's faith is inspiring!! I cry every time I read an update just about.
Little Carter doesn't have much time left. In fact, they thought they were going to lose him about a week ago. But he's still here. Still fighting. He is so brave and strong. Such a fighter. He's coming home soon. And the community is having a fund raiser for him and his family. They want it to be full of things Carter likes.
I had no idea this was going on, as Carter's family doesn't know. So it's not in the updates. When the phone call came today for husband about this fundraiser, I was floored! My husband would not have had a clue about anything, as I have not told him about Carter and he is too busy working to follow it. But I knew. I knew his story. I had been following it, shedding tears and offering up prayers along the way. So it was good that my husband wasn't home to get the call. God works in mysterious ways!
I got all information I could from the caller. When my hubby got home I got to explain to him about this brave little boy the age of our youngest daughter. Then I told him about the phone call. He got right to work making calls with contacts and seeing what he could do help. I'm not sure he would have been in a position to do that had the other path worked out. If this is the reason we are on the same old path, I can handle this. This is worth it. This is worth every heartache we have ever had on this path if it helps out Carter and his family.
It's things like this that get me thinking. Life is going to be hard. And we are going to go through periods of rough times. But my rough time is not having to make funeral arrangements for my dying toddler. My rough time is not having to watch as my child goes through hell and all I can do is hold their hand and pray for miracle. It really gives you perspective.
Life may not be all wonderful right now, but it is going to get better. And I get to decide if I want to keep looking at what is wrong and letting it get me down, or if I want to look out into the horizon at the hope of tomorrow and every day after that. I get to decide on how much I let things get to me. It's my choice. I can choose to stay miserable or I can choose to try and be more positive. If energy begets energy, then I want the energy I'm putting out into my life to be positive energy and not negative. I surely don't want a double dose of that!
No matter what problems I am facing right now (whether physical, emotional, financial, whatever), I know that one day things will change and get better. I have faith in that. And if I have faith in that, then why stay so glum? I have family I love and whom love me. I have friends I adore. I have a beautiful home. And we pay our bills, have food in the kitchen, and clothes on our backs. We have vehicles, and a dog. We are all relatively healthy. My husband has had the same job for going on 12 years. We have health insurance. So if we have issues of any kind, I have to keep perspective. In the end, I have it pretty good. And I shouldn't take that for granted. None of us should. It's okay to have a bad day or rough period. But we can't let it consume us.
Yup. Things are going to get better. I just know it. ;-)
I got super upset when something we really wanted and thought was an answer to so many prayers of ours didn't work out for us not long ago. But they say everything happens for reason (btw, don't tell this to a person who has been devastated by something. It only makes them want to smack you. Wait until they are really in a place to hear it). A friend of mine told me this not long ago (it was after the initial shock of the devastation, so she was good. lol). I could not for the life me understand what that reason could be. And it didn't seem as if the Lord was going to answer me about it either. I felt like nothing was going to be good enough anyway. Boy was I was wrong. And I have to tell you, I actually cried today at how selfish I was about it all and how foolishly I reacted to it. I felt so badly about it.
You see, my husband got a phone call here at home today from a total stranger, while he was out doing our taxes. She was given his name as a contact to help with a fund raiser for little boy that's 2 1/2 years old and is dying from brain cancer. The little boy's name is Carter. And I have been following him on both Facebook and on his Caring Bridge page. He is a local boy. And what he and his family have gone through the past 6 months since getting his diagnosis have astounded me. His mother's faith is inspiring!! I cry every time I read an update just about.
Little Carter doesn't have much time left. In fact, they thought they were going to lose him about a week ago. But he's still here. Still fighting. He is so brave and strong. Such a fighter. He's coming home soon. And the community is having a fund raiser for him and his family. They want it to be full of things Carter likes.
I had no idea this was going on, as Carter's family doesn't know. So it's not in the updates. When the phone call came today for husband about this fundraiser, I was floored! My husband would not have had a clue about anything, as I have not told him about Carter and he is too busy working to follow it. But I knew. I knew his story. I had been following it, shedding tears and offering up prayers along the way. So it was good that my husband wasn't home to get the call. God works in mysterious ways!
I got all information I could from the caller. When my hubby got home I got to explain to him about this brave little boy the age of our youngest daughter. Then I told him about the phone call. He got right to work making calls with contacts and seeing what he could do help. I'm not sure he would have been in a position to do that had the other path worked out. If this is the reason we are on the same old path, I can handle this. This is worth it. This is worth every heartache we have ever had on this path if it helps out Carter and his family.
It's things like this that get me thinking. Life is going to be hard. And we are going to go through periods of rough times. But my rough time is not having to make funeral arrangements for my dying toddler. My rough time is not having to watch as my child goes through hell and all I can do is hold their hand and pray for miracle. It really gives you perspective.
Life may not be all wonderful right now, but it is going to get better. And I get to decide if I want to keep looking at what is wrong and letting it get me down, or if I want to look out into the horizon at the hope of tomorrow and every day after that. I get to decide on how much I let things get to me. It's my choice. I can choose to stay miserable or I can choose to try and be more positive. If energy begets energy, then I want the energy I'm putting out into my life to be positive energy and not negative. I surely don't want a double dose of that!
No matter what problems I am facing right now (whether physical, emotional, financial, whatever), I know that one day things will change and get better. I have faith in that. And if I have faith in that, then why stay so glum? I have family I love and whom love me. I have friends I adore. I have a beautiful home. And we pay our bills, have food in the kitchen, and clothes on our backs. We have vehicles, and a dog. We are all relatively healthy. My husband has had the same job for going on 12 years. We have health insurance. So if we have issues of any kind, I have to keep perspective. In the end, I have it pretty good. And I shouldn't take that for granted. None of us should. It's okay to have a bad day or rough period. But we can't let it consume us.
Yup. Things are going to get better. I just know it. ;-)
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Gray Matter
I was catching up on a show I DVRed tonight. (One episode left and I'm caught up! YAY!!) And although the actual show is all make believe, and based on such, it got me thinking about life. My post on FB (Facebook) tonight was this:
Catching up on a show tonight. Makes me think... Funny how everyone wants life to be black and white. And how quick people are to judge. But they don't always have all the facts. And yes, right is right and wrong is wrong. But I do believe there is a gray area that God sees. A gray area we all get lost in from time to time. Maybe that's where grace comes in....
It amazes me how quick people are to judge others. I'm not saying I have never judged. I have. I'll admit it. I'm not proud of it. As life moves forward, I find myself trying harder and harder not to judge others. I remind myself that I don't have all the facts about any given situation, that there are 2 sides to every story always. And somewhere in the middle of those two stories is the absolute truth. Our truths are not always the absolute truth. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. And even though, yes, right is right and wrong is wrong, I think that gray area effects us more than we know.
Lets say you find out a neighbor is having an affair. What do you think of them? Are you quick to judge? Let's say it's the wife this time. Do you think she is an awful person and her husband deserves better?
Now what if I tell you that the husband beats her behind closed doors. What if he has threatened the life of her and anyone else she is ever involved with should he find out. What then? What if she tried to leave before and was beat within an inch of her life? What now? What if the wife didn't plan on it, but did finally find a love that was real with her affair? Does that somewhat change your view of the situation? Yes, it's wrong, but now you have understanding and perhaps feel sympathy for her.
What if it was the man having an affair? Would you think scumbag? Or perhaps "way to go!"? What if I told you that his wife worked long hours. And when she came home she had no time for him. What if he had been neglected emotionally for years by her. And she didn't care. What if he never set out for the affair? What if he just slowly over years built a friendship with someone and then that turned to more. What if this woman truly cared for him and him for her? What if the husband was torn between the two women? The one he married and made vows too, and the one he loves will all he has in him? What then? Any difference in your thinking now? What if the husband and wife had tried all they could, and she was unwilling to change?
Here is one for you: What if him being married led him to the love he was always meant to be with? Do to choices made by the other person, things didn't happen as they should have and this was the only way for them to get together? Do you believe in that?
Don't get me wrong, affairs are horrible!! They are wrong. Period. But as this show made me think, sometimes we don't have all the facts and we judge. We judge without walking a minute in this other persons shoes. And we judge based on who we are and how things effect us, not on who THEY are and how things effect them.
Gray Matter.
What if a man was arrested for murder. Burglary gone bad. He beat a man to death. The home owner. What do you think now?
Now lets say that the man arrested was laid off over a year ago and despite his best efforts couldn't find work. He was losing his home. Lets say he was a widower, with 3 young children. Lets say he ran out of government help and needed to feed his kids and knew this house had more than enough. All he wanted was food for his kids. What if he reasoned with home owner, and the home owner pulled a gun on him anyway and it was a struggle for life and death. Not just his life, but that of his kids as well. Because if he dies, what will happen to his kids?
Yes, theft is wrong. Period. But desperate people do desperate things. What if because of circumstances we cannot even imagine, he was driven to this? What then? Yes he was wrong to break in. The death was accident. The man who died had no compassion. Does it even make a difference in how you see the situation at all?
Gray Matter. It's everywhere. We all have made poor choices because of it at one time or another. And if you haven't yet, God bless you. Someday, you will. When we are ruled with emotions, we can't always see black and white for what they are. Sometimes it's all gray and blended. Sometimes we just want... an escape? A way out? To be loved? To be be thought of as important? To take care of our loved ones? Whatever it is.... one day I think everyone will face it. I pray that is where God's grace comes in. I really do. Because I think we all get caught up in it at one point or another. I pray we learn from it if we are caught up in it and let it makes us better people.
I wish things were always black and white. But the truth is they aren't. There is gray, whether you admit it or not. And until you have lived that gray area, you have no right to stand in judgement of anyone. After all, we are all human. We all make mistakes, right?
Gray matter. No matter what it is, no matter how big or small, I think it stinks. I think it can ruin lives if we let it. OR, we can learn from it and move on.
Gray matter. I wish everyone would remember it's out there. I wish everyone would remember that they don't have all facts before they pass judgement on others.
Gray matter. It's there. Whether you like it or not.
Catching up on a show tonight. Makes me think... Funny how everyone wants life to be black and white. And how quick people are to judge. But they don't always have all the facts. And yes, right is right and wrong is wrong. But I do believe there is a gray area that God sees. A gray area we all get lost in from time to time. Maybe that's where grace comes in....
It amazes me how quick people are to judge others. I'm not saying I have never judged. I have. I'll admit it. I'm not proud of it. As life moves forward, I find myself trying harder and harder not to judge others. I remind myself that I don't have all the facts about any given situation, that there are 2 sides to every story always. And somewhere in the middle of those two stories is the absolute truth. Our truths are not always the absolute truth. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. And even though, yes, right is right and wrong is wrong, I think that gray area effects us more than we know.
Lets say you find out a neighbor is having an affair. What do you think of them? Are you quick to judge? Let's say it's the wife this time. Do you think she is an awful person and her husband deserves better?
Now what if I tell you that the husband beats her behind closed doors. What if he has threatened the life of her and anyone else she is ever involved with should he find out. What then? What if she tried to leave before and was beat within an inch of her life? What now? What if the wife didn't plan on it, but did finally find a love that was real with her affair? Does that somewhat change your view of the situation? Yes, it's wrong, but now you have understanding and perhaps feel sympathy for her.
What if it was the man having an affair? Would you think scumbag? Or perhaps "way to go!"? What if I told you that his wife worked long hours. And when she came home she had no time for him. What if he had been neglected emotionally for years by her. And she didn't care. What if he never set out for the affair? What if he just slowly over years built a friendship with someone and then that turned to more. What if this woman truly cared for him and him for her? What if the husband was torn between the two women? The one he married and made vows too, and the one he loves will all he has in him? What then? Any difference in your thinking now? What if the husband and wife had tried all they could, and she was unwilling to change?
Here is one for you: What if him being married led him to the love he was always meant to be with? Do to choices made by the other person, things didn't happen as they should have and this was the only way for them to get together? Do you believe in that?
Don't get me wrong, affairs are horrible!! They are wrong. Period. But as this show made me think, sometimes we don't have all the facts and we judge. We judge without walking a minute in this other persons shoes. And we judge based on who we are and how things effect us, not on who THEY are and how things effect them.
Gray Matter.
What if a man was arrested for murder. Burglary gone bad. He beat a man to death. The home owner. What do you think now?
Now lets say that the man arrested was laid off over a year ago and despite his best efforts couldn't find work. He was losing his home. Lets say he was a widower, with 3 young children. Lets say he ran out of government help and needed to feed his kids and knew this house had more than enough. All he wanted was food for his kids. What if he reasoned with home owner, and the home owner pulled a gun on him anyway and it was a struggle for life and death. Not just his life, but that of his kids as well. Because if he dies, what will happen to his kids?
Yes, theft is wrong. Period. But desperate people do desperate things. What if because of circumstances we cannot even imagine, he was driven to this? What then? Yes he was wrong to break in. The death was accident. The man who died had no compassion. Does it even make a difference in how you see the situation at all?
Gray Matter. It's everywhere. We all have made poor choices because of it at one time or another. And if you haven't yet, God bless you. Someday, you will. When we are ruled with emotions, we can't always see black and white for what they are. Sometimes it's all gray and blended. Sometimes we just want... an escape? A way out? To be loved? To be be thought of as important? To take care of our loved ones? Whatever it is.... one day I think everyone will face it. I pray that is where God's grace comes in. I really do. Because I think we all get caught up in it at one point or another. I pray we learn from it if we are caught up in it and let it makes us better people.
I wish things were always black and white. But the truth is they aren't. There is gray, whether you admit it or not. And until you have lived that gray area, you have no right to stand in judgement of anyone. After all, we are all human. We all make mistakes, right?
Gray matter. No matter what it is, no matter how big or small, I think it stinks. I think it can ruin lives if we let it. OR, we can learn from it and move on.
Gray matter. I wish everyone would remember it's out there. I wish everyone would remember that they don't have all facts before they pass judgement on others.
Gray matter. It's there. Whether you like it or not.
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